Monday, 27 January 2014

Taking aim

I know, I know - 27th January is rather late for New Year's resolutions, but I've never been a fan of them anyway.  They are mostly unattainable objectives, which set us up to fail, leaving us feeling worse than at the start, so what's the point of that?  I also don't agree with waiting for January to implement any changes to one's life.  I basically dislike anything that I'm 'supposed' to do, or enforced ideas, which is why I've taken my time to reflect and ponder what I'd like to achieve this year and what might actually be feasible.  Besides, Chinese New Year is at the end of this week, so if you think about it, I'm right on time with these... ;)

In no particular order:

  • Tiny Grey Cat -  This broad aim encompasses this blog and everything I want to associate with it; learning a bit about websites and technology, setting up and migrating to my own website domain (uuugggh, I am so clueless), getting my Etsy shop up and running (a huge mission in itself), building a brand, presence and following for Tiny Grey Cat.
  • Tattoos -  Self explanatory!  Many of my tattoo plans had to be put on hold whilst I was going through cancer treatment, so now I want to get as many of them done this year as I can, including my half-sleeve.
  • Read more -  When I was younger I loved reading so much.  I would get through several books a week, but as I've got older I somehow lost touch with it.  Then chemotherapy happened, which can really affect your brain function.  I had real problems concentrating and remembering things during and after treatment, but I'm slowly recovering and want to rekindle my love of books.  My aim is to read at least one book a month, and hopefully many more.  I'm on track so far, on my second book of the year, yay! :)
  • Fitness, strength, flexibility -  Unlike the usual 'lose weight' resolution that so many people make, I want to focus on getting back some kind of control over my body.  The last couple of years have been a brutal assault, leaving me in the worst physical shape of my life.  I am weak, unfit and have numerous musculoskeletal problems due to being inactive whilst sick.  I am naturally very flexible and whilst I still have the movement range in my joints, my muscles have seized up, causing everything to be pulled out of line.  I also used to be pretty strong, so I want to gently and gradually build up my activity and strength.  Exercise is also apparently a key element in helping to fight cancer recurrence.  A bit of weight loss will probably (hopefully) be a natural side effect of this, but that isn't the primary aim; it is to feel strong and empowered and more like 'me'.  On the flexibility side, I want to be able to do the splits by the end of the year.  Eep!
  • Dentist -  I am ashamed to say that I haven't been to the dentist in at least five years and quite possibly a lot longer than that.  I think my teeth are in fairly good condition (famous last words), but another lovely side effect of my chemo was to cause an incredibly sore mouth, gums and my teeth even started to feel loose.  They feel fine now, but I really should get them checked out.  I'm sure I'm probably due a filling or two.  I can't tell you how much I hate going to the dentist.  After all the horrors I've been through, how can the dentist fill me with such fear?! 
  • Travel -  Every autumn until I got sick I would visit my friends in America.  It has now been over two years since I've seen them, so that is a priority for 2014.  I also want to try and visit some European cities, perhaps for weekend breaks.  Top of the list is Paris.
  • Learn French -  I was excellent at languages when I was at school and I've always loved listening to the French language.  I'm quite ashamed that I can't properly speak another language, so I would like to learn French to as high a level as possible.  I'm not setting a time limit on it, but I would like to make a start this year.  I have heard good things about the Michel Thomas method and am hoping to buy the French course of CDs, which have been sat on my Amazon wishlist for a while now (ahem, hint, hint!)
  • Friendships -  This is perhaps the hardest of all the aims on my list, as making friends doesn't come easily to me.  I really enjoy my own company and have always been an independent, loner type.  I am also very shy, which I can hide fairly well, but it isn't conducive to getting to know people, or more accurately, letting people get to know me.  I lost a lot of friends when I got sick.  Some were just social acquaintances I would see out and about, but some were people I've known for years, which really hurt.  I don't want to be bitter about it, so I'm trying to gracefully let those slide and accept that it's human nature to be a dick sometimes (we've all done it).  I'll never understand those friends who dropped me when I needed them most, but I'm not going to hold it against them.  However, I now find myself in a very lonely place.  From a different perspective, I'm sure I haven't been the greatest friend recently either.  Sure I've been going through hell, but that doesn't mean other people haven't got stuff to deal with too.  So I want to work on the friendships that are salvageable, build on the ones which are already strong, keep the memories but say goodbye and best wishes to the ones that are beyond repair, and hopefully make some new friendships along the way.

Did you makes any resolutions/have any aims for this year?  And are you managing to stick to them?  Let me know if you have any tips/expertise to help me with mine!  

Until next time.


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  1. We have some of the same resolutions :)
    I'm not a fan of them but I thought I would give it a try this year and as it's getting to the end of the month I have composed myself a 'resolution reacap' post for the end of the month. To actually see how well I did, haha. I still maintain they are stupid ;)

    I'm with you about the dentist. I guess I should add that to my list of things I really should be doing. For friendships, I have wholeheartedly accepted that I'm not a 'friend person' and that's OK.


    1. Yes, although I think unrealistic resolutions are silly, it's always nice to have something to aim for throughout the year :) A recap is a good idea - that's something I should do every so often, to make sure I'm staying on track. Good luck with yours! :)


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